Why do feminists who claim they are single think they can offer relationship advice to other women?

Feminists seem to like to have in mind an idea of ';how a relationship should work';, ';what men have to do to please women';, ';what women should do to make a relationship work'; etc. etc.





But at the same time claim things like they are independent or will never get married. Most will never be in a relationship for the rest of their lives and have been through some sort of painful divorce or separation, were ';abused';, dumped etc.





What makes them think they can give relationship advice if they are an abject failure at relationships themselves?





Furthermore many feminists are lesbians, yet still persist in giving heterosexual women relationship advice? Why? They know the least about men out of anyone. Men know about men, white men do, black men do, a transsexual arguably knows about men, heterosexual women may know something about men, but lesbians?





They know nothing.





So why do they think they are an anywhere near decent source of relationship advice?Why do feminists who claim they are single think they can offer relationship advice to other women?
I have asked the same question before. If their own relationships rarely work out, why would they try to advise other women? It was the same with some of the most prominent feminist leaders of the 70's. They weren't married and they didn't plan to marry, yet they thought they knew best for all the married women and thought they knew how they felt about marriage. I read an old, old newspaper article about one of the early feminists...I believe it was Elizabeth Cady Stanton...and it said she spoke at a big convention and her husband was so distraught he left town. I'll bet she was real happy in her marriage, don't you?Why do feminists who claim they are single think they can offer relationship advice to other women?
';Furthermore many feminists are lesbians, yet still persist in giving heterosexual women relationship advice?';








How do you know this? Is there some kind of credible site that lists the statistics of how many feminists are homosexual versus heterosexual?





If not, don't generalize.








Besides, I have to agree with Wendy.


You're the pot calling the kettle black, eh?
Where did you get your information about feminists? Seems as you know nothing about the subject. Who do you think worked so hard for women to have the right to own property and be able to vote? They were married feminists. Just because they are single does not mean they are not in a relationship. Ever hear of Susan B. Anthony, Alice Stokes Paul, or Elizabeth Cady Stanton? Enlighten your self. Take a college course called Women's Studies.
Calm down dearie, its only advice and opinions. Doesn't mean what anyone's saying is right or wrong in relationships. These people probably have been in relationships before and are just giving their account of their experiences, likes and dislikes. A lot of lesbians may have gone out with guys in the past before coming to realise their true sexuality.





Everybody is capable of giving advice, regardless of their situation. Loads of single men give advice to other men about women, and wtf do they know??





You need to get a grip.
to give advise they had to had a bad relanship there selves in my opion?
I won't go into the whole feminism argument.





But...





To be able to give advice, you don't have to have been in the situation yourself, or even practice the advice you preach - in fact, the only person who has ever been in exactly the same situation is you.
Because they have clear heads and know that most guys are only about one thing that some of their sisters are not aware of.
Here is my advice for relationships. Don't get too attached!





That's probaly why I am still single.
Because you are not attached doesn't mean you know nothing about these relationships and how it works..





';my spouse commits adultary all the time despite me giving him/her chances what should I do';





';I don't know I am not married yet I have no idea what it is like getting cheated on in a marriage so I am not entitled to give you my opinion';





';My boyfriend blah blah blah';





';I'm a lesbian, so I don't know anything about relationships except for lesbians relationships because we all know that the romantic love between two women is very different from the romantic love between a men and a woman';





You have shown a very ignorant thinking in your post. Many single women and men have friends who are not single and we see and hear a lot of things.
That's funny, I see YOU on here all the time offering ';dating advice'; to guys who come to this forum to ask women for advice. Yet, you are a confirmed ';marriage boycotter,'; who hates women, and only wants to ';use'; them (as you seem to think they are useless for anything else). There is no way you have ever had anything close to a functional, healthy relationship with a woman, ANY woman. You completely objectify women, so why do you think that YOU can offer advice to men seeking knowledge from women?
Lesbians know nothing? I thought you had cornered that market with you constant insults towards others.
Being a femanist has nothing to do with sexual preference. Being a femanist means being for equality and respecting eachother. Personally I'd rather have advice from someone who has had failed relationships to learn from what they did, or didn't do...and to me a relationship is a relationship be it heterosexual or not. Oh, and men can be femanists too, not just women. I know some guys who are femanists and who are heterosexual and some of the nicest and most respectful guys you could ever meet. And yet you say femanists know nothing. What makes you an expert on relationships and femanism?
You wouldn't ask a mechanic for advice on mixing drinks, so why would you ask ANYONE who is single for advice on relationships? Rule of thumb: As long as that person is single and probably wasn't successful in his/her previous relationships, there's no reason to ask him/her for love advice.





Being feminists has got nothing to do with sexual orientation. Just because some claim to be able to provide sound advice to women about relationships doesn't mean they are right/wrong or if we should/shouldn't listen to them. Feminists are just people, and people do make mistakes sometimes.
because they know how they WANT to have a relationship to go.. but those ideal relationships don't always work out..





but i don't think that all feminists are lesbians.. and they do know some stuff..
They haven't been single forever, you know. Many feminists have been in love before 鈥?with MEN, too!
yeah, I'm wondering the same thing myself.
Every Woman has Her own opinion about everything. Some of Them are right. More often that not They are merely giving voice to Their own anger and frustration, Self contempt and heartbreak. If is, after all Human nature to interfere in the affairs of others. I'm (We all are) doing it right now.